Baby Born Drunk After Mom Collapses During Drinking Binge
This speaks volumes about the oppression we face as tras sober people. The mother is obviously trans sober and it’s very likely the baby is too. She was just giving the her CHILD the alcohol it, and she, needs to be healthy. Of course the shit lord cis sober patriarchy will probably take the child away from her.
7:11 pm • 2 April 2014 • 4 notes
Sober Privilege is Being Able to Donate Blood Plasma
It’s been a while, TiSP, since my last post, well, because I was suffering from crippling memory loss for quite some time. Of course, the doctors I went to see in regard to the issue weren’t helpful, and basically told me I was just drinking too much and my memory loss was from blacking out. I informed them that I was not drunk, but trans sober, and that my BAC just needs to be a little higher (.22) than most peoples. They never want to treat my conditions. Every health issue revolves around my drinking with those shit lords.
Now, I’ve come too, I can’t remember the last three weeks, and it seems some asshole has been stealing from me because there’s no money in my bank account. Well guess how else I was victimized today, while trying to sort this out? Let me tell you …
Not knowing where my money had gone, and having a splitting headache from not being at my optimal BAC, I figured the best thing for me to do would be to go down to the local blood clinic. They’ll give you like 60 bucks for plasma, and that would be enough to get some Bacardi 151 shooters, get my BAC back to optimal levels, and then have the wherewithal to go report my money stolen to the police.
Now, my BAC was dangerously low. When they tested it at the clinic, I was only at .08, nearly 3 times less than where it needs to be for me to be healthy. The fuckers told me I was drunk, and that I couldn’t donate blood plasma until I sobered up. I told them about my memory loss, the money that must have been stolen from my account, that I was not a drunk, that I identify as sober and therefore deserve to be treated as such, and that if I didn’t get the 60 bucks I couldn’t get my Bacardi 151 shooters, and therefore would probably be too sick to go report my money stolen to the police. Also told them that .08 isn’t that high of a BAC when your trans sober and they should cut me some slack.
The fucking shit lords kicked me out and told me they’d prosecute me for trespassing if I didn’t “sober up” before returning.
12:54 pm • 31 March 2014 • 12 notes
Shitlord Authorities at my Local School System are Oppressing my Child
As all of you now know, my wife and I are both trans sober. We have to maintain a specific BAC to be healthy, mine being around .22. Well since being trans sober is a genetic condition, it’s no surprise that our son is also trans sober. We’ve been educating him about intuitive drinking and health at every sobriety level, making sure his BAC is at optimal levels, and generally being damn good parents to the little bugger.
Well he just started kindergarten and the fuckers called the authorities on us. Why? Because we simply sent him to his first day of class with the alcohol his body needs to be healthy. Any trans sober friendly doctor will tell you that if a child is trans sober, they should have a BAC of between .08 and .12 depending on their size. We packed his lunch with a half bottle of wine so that when the alcohol his body needs to be healthy that we give him for breakfast wheres off, and his BAC falls to dangerously low levels, he can get it back up again. Fuck me for caring about his health, right?
Well the school is threatening to have him put in foster care and take away all parental rights. I literally fear for my sons life, as we all know that when a trans sober person is deprived of the alcohol their body needs to be healthy they can suffer life threatening seizures. I feel so afraid and lost. At least I have my Bacardi 151 shooters …
3:42 pm • 28 February 2014 • 7 notes
The Olympics, Trans Sobriety, and Health
Many of my posts to TiSP revolve around the hypocrisy of how trans sober people are treated in the healthcare industry. I’ve personally have been denied surgery just for being at my optimal BAC (around .22), have had multiple doctors ridicule and drunk shame me when I tell them about my condition, and am discriminated against by insurance companies for merely trying to get them to help pay for the alcohol my body needs to be healthy. Never mind doctors completely ignoring the genetic causes of fatty liver syndrome and cirrhosis and routinely denying trans sober people liver transplants unless they stop drinking the alcohol their body needs. But I digress.
The hypocrisy of it all really hit for me home while watching the Olympics. I mean, the established medical community has the audacity to judge me for my behaviors I have no control of, but practically worships the unhealthy lifestyle of these so called “athletes”. Just today, for example, I witnessed a skier break their rib cage from a fall on a practice run. Even though choosing to ski in such dangerous conditions is purely a choice, and completely avoidable, I bet his injury will be covered by his insurance plan, UNLIKE THE ALCOHOL I NEED TO BE HEALTHY YOU FUCKING SHIT LORDS.
12:13 pm • 12 February 2014 • 2 notes
cosmicbreaker asked: Hi, Wil! I'm not trying to be antagonizing. You seem to be rather progressive, and really vocal on a lot of social issues. I'm bringing this up because I feel like you'd take it seriously. Using 'spirit animal' is kinda uncool. Different forms of it belong to specific cultures that are already having a hard time with erasure/delegitimization, partially through appropriation. I've heard suggestions of using 'patronus', or 'daemon' (from His Dark Materials trilogy) as alternatives. Cheers!
I got a lot of messages like yours that were bordering on antagonizing, but I’ll respond to you: this was entirely news to me, and I never meant to be offensive.
I’ll be honest: I think it’s a little much to get upset about this, but I am fully aware that I’m living life on Scalzi’s Lowest Difficulty Setting, with the Celebrity Cheat enabled, so I’ll own that reality up front. My ancestors murdered untold numbers of Native Americans, and I hate that my country was built on their blood, and I hate that the worst poverty in America exists on Tribal lands. What I hate the most is how many Americans don’t know or care. Those issues are, in my opinion, more important than words. Having said that, I see the point you make, that so much has already been taken from native people, and when a White Guy takes something more, it’s uncool.
I never meant to take anything from anyone. I think Spirit Animals are really cool, and I love everything I’ve ever learned about native or aboriginal culture. I’m not trying to appropriate or lessen anything by expressing how much Kelly Sue inspires me, and how I try to be more like her.
It’s amazing how problematic this apology is. I don’t even think Wil gets that he’s whitesplaining.
For the education of those who might find themselves in this situation, here’s a primer on what’s wrong with this response.
First: “I got a lot of messages like yours that were bordering on antagonizing, but I’ll respond to you”
I didn’t like the Tone those other people used. Yours was appropriate! I’ll talk to you.
Second: “I think it’s a little much to get upset about this, but…”
This doesn’t affect me and I’ve never given it two seconds worth of thought. And even though I’m about to launch into a whole explanation of how I get it, I need you to know that my first reaction is that everyone is oversensitive.
Third: “My ancestors murdered untold numbers of Native Americans, and I hate that my country was built on their blood”
This outpouring of white guilt somehow brings it all back to me and how I feel. Curious that.
Fourth: “I never meant to take anything from anyone. I think Spirit Animals are really cool”
THIS WOULD BE THE CRUX OF THE PROBLEM, SIR. SIR? SIR.
Fifth: “I’m not trying to appropriate or lessen anything by expressing how much Kelly Sue inspires me, and how I try to be more like her.”
The point is not what you were or were not trying to do, it’s how what you did affects others. Why don’t you express your admiration for Kelly Sue in ways that are not appropriative? Why MUST you express admiration in this exact way?
Also, how fucking hard is it to say: “Oh, I did not realize that invoking Spirit Animals like that is a problem. I won’t do it again." ? That’s really all you needed to say. You didn’t need to whitesplain or get defensive AT ALL.
Let Wil Wheaton serve as an example of What Not To Do! Trust me on this, y’all.
I didn’t realize that invoking Spirit Animals was a problem, and I won’t do it again. I thought that was clear from my reply, and I regret that I didn’t make that explicitly clear.
Also, would you please excuse the fuck out of me for explaining my thought process, and attempting to share my admittedly complicated and uncertain reasoning. Please excuse me for acknowledging that I’m a privileged heterosexual white male in a manner that was not to your liking. Please excuse me for admitting that I haven’t thought about something that doesn’t affect me, because it does not affect me.Excuse me for — wait. I’m sorry. That’s not what I mean. I don’t mean that I need you to excuse me for anything. What I mean is: you’ve shown us all a spectacular way to alienate a potential ally with your self-righteous anger and indignation.
Here’s a pro tip for you, incredibly angry person: when someone is polite and respectful, reasonable adults ten to reply to them a lot faster and with more thought than we do to someone who is a condescending, angry, belligerent asshole. I sincerely hope that you are able to find peace and happiness in your life, and that you’ll continue to speak out about issues that affect you. As I said, you have to have the courage of your convictions and you can’t just sit down and shut up.
You can also not be a dick about it.
Wil, I’m a Native American woman who grew up on a rez. I’m currently a social services caseworker who still spends a lot of time on Native lands. Somebody sent me a link to your tumblr asking for my opinion on the “spirit animal” thing. I don’t know much about you, but if I have to give you a piece of advice it would be this; don’t back down next time. These people don’t listen to things like “logic” and “reason” when they are in one of their social justice tizzies. It’s not even worth trying to be kind or polite to them.
If I had a dollar for every time a middle class, white, lesbian with a Women’s Studies degree tried to tell ME how to appropriately respect MY OWN CULTURE AND HERITAGE, I could probably buy a goddamn reservation and turn it into a theme park.
Mr. Wil, you aren’t disrespecting Natives like me by using the term “spirit animal”. We WANT to share our cultural heritage with white people! I gave a friend from another country a ceremonial headdress just a few months ago because he thought it was “cool”. You know what? That shit IS cool! I want everyone to know about it!
Native Americans of all tribes pride themselves on being generous with out cultural iconography. We love having friends in our homes, of all colors! We love sharing what makes our nations so great and unique. We love giving and receiving gifts (except for blankets….you white fuckers can keep those. Ours are prettier and have less smallpox.) Yet our cultural traditions, our languages…they are all dying out. Our own children don’t want to learn Navajo. Our numbers are small and our elders are dying. Nobody wants our traditions to die with them, so we share with everyone we can! So long as somebody isn’t actively trying to make fun of us, we want to give the gift of a culture that transcends generations and skin color. In modern America, there are actually a pretty large number of “white” people who have Native blood. Their skin may not be brown like mine, but their blood is the same.
To the social justice warriors on Tumblr. You know what’s racist? PEOPLE WHO AREN’T NATIVE AMERICAN TRYING TO WHITE KNIGHT FOR MY FUCKING CULTURE. If something offends me or “appropriates” my culture, leave it to ME to stand up for what’s right. I’m not an ignorant heathen savage who needs educated white folk to save me from OTHER white folk. For the love of God, do you not see that your bullshit tirades on Tumblr about spirit animals and hairfeathers are the SAME MOTHERFUCKING THING that Europeans tried to do to my nation YEARS AGO?
If you are a social justice warrior, go play in traffic. I don’t want your help defending a culture you know nothing about.
Wesley Crusher is a whitesplaining cis sober shit lord who appropriates culture.
5:26 pm • 10 February 2014 • 3,754 notes
My Story and Thanks - With Trigger Warning
I am trying to submit anon, since I am not ready to come out as trans sober yet. I cannot thank you enough for carving out a small space for us to talk through our plight. I had almost completed a program to become drink free, but have been sleeping like crap, depressed and moody. I had been shamed and misunderstood for the last 20 years and finally feel like there is a safe space away from the cis sober bullies that have run amok in our media. They almost shamed me out of my intuitive drinking to keep my body healthy and functional.
I have almost now gotten up to my prior optimal BAC of .16 (I know, I am just a baby here).
Sober privilege is not forced out of your optimal BAC. Sober privilege is not having to hide who you are and be terrified about being discovered.
6:22 pm • 5 February 2014
rasklapanjes asked: Whoever is running this blog has done a really great job i almost tho it was legit holy frick
That would be me. And stop thinking the plight of the trans sober is not real, shit lord. We are easily the most oppressed group in America today.
6:47 pm • 31 January 2014 • 11 notes
This is Sober Privilege
Figured it was time for trans sober people to have a subreddit on reddit.com to share our stories of oppression.
3:16 pm • 29 January 2014 • 5 notes
rasklapanjes asked: Wait I think I got the meaning of trans sober and if it means what I think it means oh my god I think I'm gonna be laughing the rest of the night
While I and my fellow trans sobers are drunk all of the time, we identify as sober, therefore society should treat us as such. Yet we deal with constant harassment and oppression in terms of operating motor vehicles, job discrimination, health discrimination and such. We are easily the most over looked and marginalized group of people the world has ever seen.
6:09 pm • 28 January 2014 • 8 notes
Sober Privilege is Finding Easy Employment
So as many of you know, I am a trans sober activist and leader in the trans sober community. While I have to have a BAC of .22 at all times to be healthy, I am labeled a “drunk” by society because of this, even though I identify as a sober person. It’s not my fault my body is different than yours, shit lord. Anyway …
I have recently become unemployed, and am looking for a new job. You wouldn’t believe the discrimination I’ve been facing in this endeavor! When I get asked what my biggest weakness is, for example, I answer honestly, and tell the interviewer that before I reach my optimal BAC I sometimes suffer from migraines and anger issues. They always, and I MEAN ALWAYS, end the interview right then and there! Can you believe it? Fuck me for being honest.
And because of my multiple DUI’s (no matter how much I explain to an officer that I identify as a sober person so I’m not really “drunk” when my BAC is around .22 the fucks charge me anyway. And TRY to find a trans sober friendly judge) I can’t pursue my dream of being a fire truck driver or train operator. There are actually laws set up to discriminate against trans sober people in this regard. I thought this was America.
Sober privilege is being able to be honest at job interviews and still get the job AND pursue your dream job.
2:31 pm • 24 January 2014 • 21 notes
1zacster asked: Do you think the program "transmac" is offensive and appropriation of the word "trans"? It is a program that enables HFS and HFS+ volumes to be created and modified on NT + NTFS/FAT32 based systems.
Computers are an instrument of the shit lord cis sober patriarchy so it does not surprise me one bit that they appropriate trans identity in an attempt to mock and silence us.
11:20 am • 21 January 2014 • 6 notes
matthewrambleson asked: What can we do about American alcohol laws? I am trans sober, and remaining properly healthy is actually illegal for me even though I am an adult (19). I feel like the government is discriminating against me by forcing me to choose between allowing my health to suffer and risking going to jail.
You make a good point Matt. I am an advocate for trans sober children and run a number of safe spaces where they can drink without fear of being caught. I even buy them the liquor their bodies need to be healthy.
Children as young as 12 are welcome.
11:18 am • 21 January 2014 • 3 notes
Trans Sober Phobic Parents and Their Children
Every once in a while I get asked to babysit for my neighbor’s kid. I don’t mind doing it that much and they always leave a bottle of wine and a pizza so it’s cool. Being trans sober, the cost of liquor adds up. Especially when your BAC has to be .22 for optimal health and NO insurance companies will cover the cost of alcohol because they’re part of the shit lord cis sober patriarchy and won’t even consider being trans sober a medical condition. But I digress.
I was asked to babysit last Friday night and I said “What the heck”. They’re great neighbors and I get along with their boy, Jack, really well. 1 bottle of wine is only enough to get my BAC to about .06 so of course I brought my usual bottle of Bacardi 151 along as well.
Well I must not have gotten enough of the alcohol my body needs to be healthy because after a couple of hours of babysitting I passed out. I don’t even remember it. I think it’s because my neighbors once asked me not to do 151 shooters in front of their kid so I had to sneak them, severely slowing down my drinking, to an obviously unhealthy point.
Well you know what, Jack, that little bugger, got into my 151 stash and I can only imagine was having a good ‘ole time. I know this because I woke up to his father screaming at me, confronting me with the Bacardi bottle, threatening to call the cops, and stating I was never allowed near Jack again.
You know what, I’m secretly proud. Jack is obviously trans sober and this was his first experience practicing intuitive drinking. Restraining order be damned, I’m teaching that kid about HAESL, Health at every sobriety level.
Sober privilege is being able to teach children about proper health.
7:50 pm • 16 January 2014 • 12 notes
10^6 made this handy presentation. EDUCATE YOURSELVES
Fixed for those on mobile:
Reblogging for visibility
Always thinking of what makes my alcohol possible. I hope you identify as female yeast you sexy single celled mama!
6:25 pm • 9 January 2014 • 13 notes
I love this website, you helped me so much! For years my family and my doctors told me to stop drinking, though 90% of alcohol withdrawal attempts have failed. Now I´m practicing intuitive drinking, giving my body the alcohol it needs. Never felt better!
Sober privilege is not being criticized for the way, you please the needs of your body.
Quick question, I see all your Portlandia posts, do you live in Portland? I do, we should imbibe the alcohol our bodies need to be healthy and fight some cis sober oppression if you are.
(Source: transsoberidentity, via cheriebeeps)
5:53 pm • 9 January 2014 • 3 notes